Their Eyes Were Never On Me: One Man’s Painful Journey With “Self” Addiction

“Their Eyes Were Never On Me: One Man’s Painful Journey with “Self” Addiction is a raw and deeply personal memoir that takes readers on a transformative journey through one man’s battle with self-obsession and the search for true healing.

In this honest and powerful account, the author opens up about his years of emotional pain, self-destructive behavior, and the crippling effects of what he calls “self addiction”—a constant, overwhelming focus on his own thoughts, feelings, and survival at the expense of deeper connection and self-awareness.

From his early struggles with identity and self-worth, to his years in therapy and support groups, this book explores the painful truths behind addiction to one’s own internal world. But it’s not just a story of pain. It’s a story of healing—the journey from self-loathing to self-love, from isolation to connection, and from self-doubt to self-respect.

Through moments of vulnerability, courage, and raw insight, the author recounts how he finally found the strength to step away from destructive patterns and reclaim his sense of self. A pivotal moment comes during a career-changing audition, where he is asked to play a role that demands him to abandon his truth. For the first time, he chooses self-respect over survival, refusing to compromise his integrity for the sake of a job.

“Their Eyes Were Never On Me” is more than just a memoir—it’s a call to anyone struggling with self-doubt, addiction, or isolation to see themselves in a new light. It’s a story of how healing starts with self-love and the courage to live authentically, no matter the cost.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or unsure of your place in the world, this book will inspire you to look inward, confront your struggles, and begin the journey toward becoming the person you were always meant to be.